The following poem, written to the meter of  ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas, was written by my husband, Andrew R. Backus.

For those who do not know us, it is the story of our lives – the circumstances under which we met, fell in love, and were married. Some may think the timing, circumstances and place where we were married a little odd, but we believe that the hand of God was leading and guiding us and put each of us in the right place at the right time. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. (Romans 8: 28)

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Robert before his illness

Important Facts:

  • Andy’s first wife Dee passed away on Aug. 25, 2013 of Glioblastoma Multiforme (GBM) Grade 4 Brain Cancer – a form of Brain Cancer that is always terminal.
  • My first husband Bob Pocza passed away on Feb. 2, 2016 of a blood disease called Myelodysplastic Syndrome after an almost 4 year illness. I was now a widow.
  • On April 18, 2016 My son Robert Pocza was diagnosed with Glioblastoma Multiforme (GBM) Grade 4 brain cancer, the same type of cancer that Dee had. Being a new widow, I moved from my home in Michigan to Wisconsin to live with and help my son, who lived in the Milwaukee area. He passed away on April 6, 2017.
  • Our story is bittersweet, but in all circumstances we know that God is good and does what is best for his children.

Christmas 2017/Epiphany 2018


 Merry Christmas to one, Merry Christmas to all!

And this Christ is named Jesus, as you may recall.

He’s the One God had promised right after the Fall.

He came into our world as a baby so small.

God and man in one person, He paid for all sin,

And He opened up heaven so all may go in.


With this letter we greet you, this man and this wife,

As we share with you things going on in our life:


‘Twas about this time last year that something was brewing,

And in a few months there will be vows renewing!

For you see, there’s a God and He knows what He’s doing.


It was May 22nd of Twenty-Sixteen

That a man and his mother in my church I’d seen –

A new widow from Michigan here for her son

Who had a brain tumor, the same kind of one

That somehow had happened to Dee my late wife –

The kind that ends up with the ending of life.


I offered support to this mom and her son,

For we know that with Jesus all battles are won.

The time went by quickly as we grew together

And they worked through medicines, red tape and weather.


The cancer progressed with its ups and its downs,

While Chris and her son dealt with smiles and with frowns.

In the meantime, my role was to offer support

 As we helped her son Rob who was such a good sport.


But something was happening, to our surprise;

We began seeing love as we looked in our eyes.


Robert noticed it too and began to remind us

That perhaps we should leave being single behind us.


Well, believe it or not, that’s exactly the thing

That transpired, and suddenly Chris had a ring!


Robert tearfully told her it would make him smile

If he with his mother could walk down the aisle.


So we planned and we plotted as fast as we could,

But that doggoned old cancer was up to no good.

Robert moved to a place, Zilber Hospice by name,

Where my wife Dee had been; it was one and the same!

So with God’s guiding hand and beside her son’s bed,

Christine Pocza and Andrew R. Backus – were wed!


Now believe me, the story continues from here;

For the next day we saw Robert’s end drawing near –

The end that without faith in Christ some would fear.

Chris’ son now went home to his Savior so dear.


In church we our vows reaffirmed on May six,

With God’s Word, prayer and song a big part of the mix.

The service by Pastor B. Adams was led;

Robert’s memory made known by a rose that was red.

Sarah Kuerth played the organ, Don Buch us addressed;

With song “You Gift of God” by Chris D. we were blessed.


Since then Chris and I have begun married life

And are making a home as a husband and wife.

We live in the same place as I did before,

And Chris’ sister Barb’s at Clare Meadows next door.

I still do many things such as I used to do,

But a dog, fish and birds are some things that are new!


I would be remiss if I failed to mention –

And bragging and boasting are not my intention –

That my grandchildren now number twenty and eight! *

Steve and Heather bore Theo – last June was the date!

I baptized little Theo at Bash – I was blessed!

And our family still knows “Backus Bash” is the best!

(*Just in case you are wond’ring “What else will he say?”

I can tell you that there is one more on the way!)


We have seen some things change and some things stay the same,

Yet in all of life’s changes, sin’s shame is our claim.

That’s why God sent His Son who is Jesus by Name;

He redeemed us poor sinners, and that’s why He came.

Happy Epiphany from the Backuses!


Andy & Chris, May 6, 2017





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What is Decision Theology?

Many church denominations today push the idea of “Decision Theology”. Maybe some who are reading this blog post do not know what Decision Theology means. It is possible also that many who are reading this do know what it means and feel or have been taught that it is the only way to heaven.

The purpose of this post is to define “Decision Theology”, state the truth, and most importantly, to offer comfort in the knowledge that the way to heaven does not depend on anything we do, say, or feel of our own decision. Salvation is a free gift of God’s love and mercy for lost sinners.


Decision Theology


(Luther’s Catechism, Anniversary Edition pg.186)

Can people decide, by the power of their own wills, to accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior?

Unfortunately, many today speak about faith in Christ as a personal decision. They believe that people must ultimately decide whether or not to accept what God has to say and whether or not to invite Jesus into their hearts.

The Bible doesn’t teach this. Rather, it teaches that we are all by nature spiritually dead. Our human wills, in any spiritual sense, are also dead. What is dead cannot contribute toward becoming spiritually alive. Those who view faith as something brought about by a human decision are placing confidence for salvation in something other than God. Such misplaced confidence opens the door to uncertainty and doubt, leaving them to wonder if they truly believe or if they are sincere. We place our trust in God, who alone has the power to work the miracle of faith through the gospel.

There is no need for anyone to make a profession of faith to any church body or pastor, or make a personal decision to accept or receive Jesus into his heart or follow Him. No; it is by grace you have been saved, through faith and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God-not by works, so that no one can boast. (Ephesians 2:8,9)

So take comfort dear friends and be confident in the knowledge that Jesus did it all for you. There is nothing you can do on your own to come to Him. It is the work of the Holy Spirit through the Word. No one can say, Jesus is Lord except by the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthians 12:3)

I urge you to pick up your Bible and begin reading. Let the Holy Spirit take it from there. You will be blessed!

Gloria Dei!

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Choose my instruction instead of silver, knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is more precious than rubies and nothing you desire can compare with her. (Proverbs 8: 10)

The topic of transgender bathrooms came up recently in our weekly Bible Study. Many of our WELS (Wisconsin Evangelical Lutheran Synod) schools in Wisconsin are schools of choice. This means that they are government funded. This is a wonderful blessing in most instances, but it can also cause serious problems.

The blessings are manifold. The most significant blessing is that the children who attend our Lutheran schools receive food for their souls. They receive the bread of life when they are exposed to God’s Word on a daily basis. This earthly life is not the end. It is only a journey that we must travel to reach the goal of eternal life with Jesus. Jesus commands us to go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you (Matthew 28: 19, 20).

Secondly, the blessing of supplemental support from the government makes our schools affordable for all children no matter what walk of life they come from. The cost of operating a school is immense. Without government funding students must pay tuition which is not affordable for many families.

The problem with government funding is that when our federal government provides money for operation, they expect us to follow their rules and guidelines regarding all aspects of life. For the most part they have the best interests of the children in mind, but when our government’s rules and regulations go against God’s Word, this becomes a serious issue.

Our federal government just passed a law stating that a transgender person should be able to use the bathroom of his/her choice. Transgender and gay life styles go completely against God’s Word. So while we are teaching our children the truth from God’s Word, our government is telling us to allow/promote this kind of lifestyle in our schools, which totally against what God teaches us in His Word.

Aside from it going against God’s Word, it is also a privacy issue, not only in schools, but in all public restrooms. Should a 5-year-old little girl witness a grown man using a urinal? What about the teen girl, or any woman for that matter, who is having her menstrual period? And of course there will always be those who will take advantage of the situation in inappropriate ways.

The lingering question for all Christians out there is; what if we refuse to comply? Will the government then take away our funding? Every Christian School or organization that receives funding from the government will be severely impacted when/if they refuse to comply and then lose government funding.

The answer is really quite simple. The apostle Peter gives us the answer in Acts 5: 29, We ought to obey God rather than human beings! We must refuse to obey the authorities when they go against God’s Word. “But what if we lose the funding?”, you ask. If we lose the funding, we must trust in the Lord. He knows the needs of each child and will provide an answer.

It is easy to spread the Word to children and families by teaching it in our schools. But couldn’t we work a little harder at spreading the good news in our neighborhoods, by inviting families to church and building a bridge of friendship to them? We are God’s instruments. There are many ways we can shine the light of His grace in our lives to help lead others to Him.

In the end the only decision we can make as true followers of Christ is to refuse to accept the funding if, or when that becomes our only option. Allowing our children to accept this lifestyle as appropriate, will harm their souls and possibly lead them into sin.

In the end do not fear to make the right decision. Doing the right thing is never wrong. Stand strong in the Lord. He has promised; And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age (Matthew 28:20 b). Trust in Him, not the pockets of the government. Satan has crept in with his lying deceiving tongue to desensitize and corrupt our Christian morals and beliefs in order to try and tear us from our heavenly Father’s loving arms and weaken our faith. We must take hold of the Lord’s knowledge and wisdom in the matter and make the decision to refuse funding. We may lose financial assistance, but our children will gain so much more. The Lord promises and He keeps his promises.

Gloria Dei!

by Robert Pocza

Edited by Christine Pocza

Wisdom’s Call (Proverbs 8)

8 Does not wisdom call out?
Does not understanding raise her voice?
2 At the highest point along the way,
where the paths meet, she takes her stand;
3 beside the gate leading into the city,
at the entrance, she cries aloud:
4 “To you, O people, I call out;
I raise my voice to all mankind.
5 You who are simple, gain prudence;
you who are foolish, set your hearts on it.[a]
6 Listen, for I have trustworthy things to say;
    I open my lips to speak what is right.
7 My mouth speaks what is true,
for my lips detest wickedness.
8 All the words of my mouth are just;
none of them is crooked or perverse.
9 To the discerning all of them are right;
they are upright to those who have found knowledge.
10 Choose my instruction instead of silver,
    knowledge rather than choice gold,
11 for wisdom is more precious than rubies,
and nothing you desire can compare with her.
12 “I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence;
I possess knowledge and discretion.
13 To fear the Lord is to hate evil;
    I hate pride and arrogance,
evil behavior and perverse speech.
14 Counsel and sound judgment are mine;
I have insight, I have power.
15 By me kings reign
and rulers issue decrees that are just;
16 by me princes govern,
and nobles—all who rule on earth.[b]
17 I love those who love me,
and those who seek me find me.
18 With me are riches and honor,
enduring wealth and prosperity.
19 My fruit is better than fine gold;
what I yield surpasses choice silver.
20 I walk in the way of righteousness,
along the paths of justice,
21 bestowing a rich inheritance on those who love me
and making their treasuries full.
22 “The Lord brought me forth as the first of his works,[c][d]
before his deeds of old;
23 I was formed long ages ago,
at the very beginning, when the world came to be.
24 When there were no watery depths, I was given birth,
when there were no springs overflowing with water;
25 before the mountains were settled in place,
before the hills, I was given birth,
26 before he made the world or its fields
or any of the dust of the earth.
27 I was there when he set the heavens in place,
when he marked out the horizon on the face of the deep,
28 when he established the clouds above
and fixed securely the fountains of the deep,
29 when he gave the sea its boundary
so the waters would not overstep his command,
and when he marked out the foundations of the earth.
30     Then I was constantly[e] at his side.
I was filled with delight day after day,
rejoicing always in his presence,
31 rejoicing in his whole world
and delighting in mankind.
32 “Now then, my children, listen to me;
blessed are those who keep my ways.
33 Listen to my instruction and be wise;
do not disregard it.
34 Blessed are those who listen to me,
watching daily at my doors,
waiting at my doorway.
35 For those who find me find life
and receive favor from the Lord.
36 But those who fail to find me harm themselves;
all who hate me love death.”

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